The process of planning a wedding has never been associated with grooms. It seems that they are constantly on the sidelines, just waiting to show up.

However, times are certainly changing, so why not participate in this process equally with your bride? Or what if it’s a gay wedding – one of the grooms definitely has to plan their wedding. Be as it may, we came up with a short list of the 5 most important tips for every groom who wants to participate in the planning process of their wedding. So, let’s take a look at a groom’s guide to wedding planning:

Décor is important

a groom’s guide to wedding planning

Straight guys don’t know a lot about flowers and décor, so this task might be the most challenging of all. You can always ask a professional or a friend to help you out, but the most important thing is to establish the color of your wedding. You want two colors that are complementary, and make sure to use some light colors, such as white, beige, baby pink, golden or baby blue. After carefully choosing the most beautiful flowers (that are also quite photogenic), you can opt for different candles that you will put on the dining tables – these are always very classy and can look extremely beautiful once you light them. Finally, put some extra effort into decorating your own table – you can find some amazing ideas on Pinterest, for example, as it’s always good to have several photos as inspiration.

Wine and dine

a groom’s guide to wedding planning

Regardless of whether you know something about décor or not, you probably know a lot more about food. And there are probably dishes that you want to be featured at your wedding. However, be aware that it’s quite difficult for anyone to cook for so many people (especially if you are having a big wedding), so opting for the services of some of the best catering companies around you is the best possible idea. Come up with the menu together with them, and there you go. As far as the drinks are concerned, most venues manage this without you, but if there’s something that you want to be featured (such as your favorite cocktail or something similar), you can always talk with them.

The seating chart

a groom’s guide to wedding planning

Even though you might think that the seating chart is not among your priorities, it is extremely important. And it is you who should actually make it. Why? Well, the guests are yours, so you probably know best who’s on good terms with whom, who want to sit together, who have the same interests (or drinking capacities), and who likes whom. Placing the wrong people at the same table can definitely backfire, and you certainly don’t want that on your wedding day.  You can always ask your family for help, as your mom will probably tell you certain family secrets that you should take into account!

Your looks

a groom’s guide to wedding planning

Focusing on your looks is also another priority of yours. You won’t have anything to do with the wedding dress of your bride (or the suit of the other groom if the wedding in question is gay), but make sure that you have the best possible suit for yourself. Always opt for fitted suits that will accentuate your figure in the best possible way, and if you want to spice things up, you can talk to your significant other and have details of similar color.

The glorious trip after

a groom’s guide to wedding planning

Finally, it’s always good to plan your honeymoon in advance. Sure, this might not seem as the most important thing right now (and it probably isn’t as you have so many other things to worry about that are connected to your wedding), but having a destination in mind and booking the tickets and the accommodation is not a lot of work and it will certainly save you some time later on. As far as the destination is concerned, you can opt for some of the most popular honeymoon destinations. Of course, you can also choose a place that both of you wanted to visit for a long time too.

We won’t say that planning a wedding is an easy task, as it’s not. However, if you really want everything to go perfect, you know you will have to do your best. Always have a checklist by your side so as not to forget something. And good luck!

a groom’s guide to wedding planning

Peter is a lifestyle and wedding writer for TheHomoCulture and Pridezillas magazine. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips.